The sun and the silver lining

I was asked a couple of weeks ago what gives me the ability to move on from the past, not let the scars affect the way my life is today. I had no idea what to say then. I told her something about always looking to the positive in your life and forgetting you were ever hurt and all of that cliche stuff. Even though that is true, there is more to it than that. I've had many relationships, big and small, serious and not so serious and I've been hurt many times all over the spectrum. Even though the past makes you who you are, it's who you are in the present that really matters. Instead when something reminds me of the pain of something in the past, I just think of where I am right now. I think of waking up next to her every morning. When some scar from the past is re-visited I don't think about what it meant then, I think about how happy I am NOW. Trust issues used to be a problem for a little while, but then I stopped having them. I realized that people are people, some are good some are bad, and the bad ones always make it so hard for the good ones. So I thought, why let a past relationship hurt the one I've got now? Why make my own rain on my own parade? It's hard to move on from a wound made by someone you cared about, I've had to do it more times than I care to count. It takes time, like everything and there is nothing wrong with that. You really do just need to focus on how good that person makes you feel, and how they will be there through everything, no matter how hard, happy, impossible or jubilant the situation is. I couldn't be happier right now. And I have her to thank for it. I'm going to keep loving and living and laughing with her for a long time.